Emotional Flashback: The Effects of Toxic Shame
By Michael Mason, M. Ed., LPC, NCC.
Welcome to "Wellness Education Wednesday," a space where we illuminate lesser-discussed corners of mental health, guiding you from the shadows of trauma into the light of understanding and healing. Writing from my own experiences, my journey through the U.S. Army, personal battles with mental health, and professional commitment at Safe Harbor Counseling, equips me with a unique blend of empathy and expertise to support those on their healing journey.
Emotional Flashbacks: A Closer Look
Emotional flashbacks are not mere memories but visceral, intense emotions that catapult you back into the emotional state of past trauma, without an accompanying visual narrative. This can leave one feeling suddenly overwhelmed by emotions like fear, shame, or loneliness, disconnected from the present moment.
For Example: Imagine being suddenly engulfed in fear upon stepping into a dimly lit room, not because of the room itself, but because it subconsciously reminds you of a past, fearful situation. This is the reality for many dealing with emotional flashbacks, a reminder that these experiences, though invisible, are profoundly real.
Real-Life Example: Consider Alex, a client who, upon hearing a certain melody, found themselves plummeted into deep loneliness and despair, reminiscent of their childhood experiences. Alex's story illustrates the bewildering nature of emotional flashbacks, highlighting the importance of recognizing and naming these experiences for what they are: echoes of the past seeking acknowledgment in the present.
Unraveling Toxic Shame
Toxic shame is a debilitating belief in one's inherent unworthiness, a shadow that darkens every achievement and interaction. It's more than feeling guilty for a wrong action; it's an all-consuming conviction of being fundamentally flawed.
Simplifying the Complex: Think of toxic shame not as a moment of regret but as a lens through which you view yourself, permanently colored by the belief of being less than, unworthy of happiness, and love.
Transitioning from Surviving to Thriving
Incorporating trauma-informed care into our approach, we prioritize safety, empathy, and empowerment, guiding each individual through their unique path from darkness into light. Here are some actionable steps derived from trauma-informed principles to aid in your journey:
Actionable Steps:
Acknowledge and Label: Recognizing an emotional flashback is occurring is a powerful first step towards disarmament.
Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that these feelings are not reflective of your current reality but echoes of the past.
Seek Connection: Whether it's reaching out to a friend or engaging with a community online, connection is crucial.
Personal Insights from Michael Mason
In my own therapy and throughout my career, I've seen and experienced the transformative power of trauma-informed care firsthand. Each individual's journey reaffirms my belief in the resilience of the human spirit. It's not just about surviving; it's about redefining one's narrative on their own terms, embracing both vulnerability and strength.
Extending Support Beyond Our Family
Our journey has been enriched by the supportive community we've built and engaged with—other families navigating similar paths, educators, and mental health professionals. "Creating a network of support is invaluable," a truth that my family and I live by.
Your Invitation to Join Us
If this post resonated with you, remember, you're not alone. We're here to navigate the complexities of healing together. Follow our journey on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, and visit safeharbor4me.com for a free consultation.
Together, let's turn the tide from surviving to thriving, in a journey marked by understanding, compassion, and empowerment.
